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This is going to be a very harsh message and this if for the people who have pseudo-superiority.

If you think that you are special, that you stand out, that you are smarter than others, that you know better than almost anyone else - look at your life right now and think; do you really have things you can boast about to successful people like Michael Jordon or Mother Theresa?

Do you have the monetary riches or the respect they get from thousands or even millions they’ve inspired?

Look at the successful people of the world and compare yourself to them.

Are your actions mediocre?

They probably don’t contribute to the world.

They are probably selfish - and only satisfy your needs of significance and attention, no one else’s.

…and yet they constantly make you think that you are significant and worse, superior.

What’s the problem with that?

You don’t listen to others because you think you are better.

You know what happens then?

You criticize other’s actions, other actions that are in reality, better and superior. You think they are being a Smart Alec.

You stick to your old beliefs and continue doing the things you do because you never listen to others.

How are you ever going to learn to become better this way?

You think your actions make you special.

I’m here to tell you that yes, they do make you feel special and they do give you significance.

BUT...

I’m also sorry to say that there is probably something better you can do that actually helps others, that is more meaningful, that achieves more.

Stop getting significance the bad way.

It gives you attention, but because it only fulfills something intangible, you will eventually encounter problems in reality, where tangible things matter a lot.

Tangible things?

Money.

…and because these actions are usually selfish,

Your relationships will suffer. They only fulfill your needs and not the needs of others.

Tell me, what contribution does it make to the person you are telling to that “you can drink a lot of alcohol and still remain sane.”?

It only provokes them; and because you think it makes you significant, they will think that it will make them significant if they actually do it - and congratulations, you just influenced someone to take on your bad habit. You actually affected his life in a negative manner.

You’re scum.

I said it was going to be harsh.

BUT…

It’s not your fault.

You probably associate too much pain and hardship with doing the things that would be better; things like starting a business, teaching others how you do your thing, either from a lack of faith in your own abilities or fear of rejection and failure.

That is why you ended up doing what you are doing now.

You know what?

Now that you associate pain with what you’re doing now as I’ve talked about above, think about the pleasures of doing something that contributes to others, something that is really meaningful.

Do you feel driven to do those things now?

I want you to realize that you can get significance with better actions. You can do it.

If you don’t even try, how are you even going to START getting there?

It’s logical that you won’t ever hit a target with your arrow if you do not even try shooting it. The same principle applies here.

Learn something you are passionate about; and excel at it, then help others achieve it with your expertise and experience.

When you do something very well and people feel like you’re good, you have significance. People praise you. When these people give you their respect, you are significant to them… and because it’s how good you are that made them respect you, they will want to get that same significance; and this drives them to learn the useful skill that you have so they will get others’ attention just like you got theirs.

This, you just gave them something good. You gave them the desire to do something that would contribute to their lives and the lives of others.

…and you also contributed to the lives of others.

You have the right to feel proud about what you do. Feel like you are the best at what you do, but also realize that you can still improve, still learn and pick up advice from others and become even greater.

Being the best does not mean you have all the pieces - you can still pick up more pieces to make you better, more complete.

When you always want to be the best and you are proud that you are, you will deliver your information with confidence. You will overflow with passion and inspire people.

Evaluate your habits and actions.

What currently makes you feel like you’re significant?

What do you think you have that makes you special?

Are these good habits?

If they aren’t, think about how you can change it for the better.

Think about something you can do, something you love to do and turn it into one that can fulfill your need of significance and attention.

No matter how outrageous that thing may be, know that you can do it. At least try - and try until you get it right.

Would you rather hurt someone in the long term, or eventually help so many others and bring more to their lives?

My motivation to write this post was witnessing this happening myself. I just witnessed it with my own eyes, and I felt I had to write about it.

Life is a miracle. Live it like one.

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